Why Me?

So I was at a club. I see this very hot girl at the other end. I think, either she is real or I am a little too drunk. So I walk to her and ask her for a dance. She say - "No, I am Sorry." I make all sad face. Girls always fall for the sad Apoorva face. She gently run her hand through my hair. I think, its working. She smile and say, "Its not you. I am just not into men." I thought....

Why Me?


The first job I had, they laid me off in 2 months. A sudden change in management had them outsourcing their projects. I thought....

Why Me?


My last girlfriend left me and started going around with my best friend. My best friend is a girl. I thought....

Why Me?


(Ok, I made that last one up!)


But, there has always been a point in everyones life which has made us ask the inevitable question to ourselves. "Why Me?" My friend lost his dad in the Mumbai bomb blasts. His Dad had walked out of the bank when he realised he has forgotten to return the cashiers borrowed pen. He went inside to return it and rest is tragedy.

A friend of mine from school died when the gas cylinder at his place exploded. His Dad, Mom and he were fast asleep when the gas leaked out. His Mom survived.

My grandfather used to tell me about a friend of his who had to get his left leg amputated. In the worst of errors, they amputated the right one.

Suddenly the "Why Me?" which we keep saying sounds very trivial right? But rest assured, there is an answer to it.

The other day I was out with a friend of mine. The topic of the evening was tragedy. Well, to be more precise, Tragedy in Her life. Thank God for making alcohol for such times. She kept going on about the "Why Me?" situation of her life, till I casually said, "Its you because you can take it and can come out of it."

How true. Its you because you could take it. Because you would come out of it. When I lost my job, I wondered why me. I had just bought a car, had monthly payments to make, had to make a sudden dash to India and at the back of my mind, wondered how I would get through without any cash inflow. At that moment, it was a complete "Why Me?" situation. Hey, two years later. I survived. And the car is still mine. :)

My friend who lost his Dad, he passed his 10th, his 12th and got his engineering degree from the same college as mine. Last I know, he is in USA. Doing well.

Its you because you are strong enough to handle that situation. And passing through that phase will only make you stronger. During that instance of tragedy, we limit our thoughts to that very moment and usually blind ourselves to the future. So the next time you feel like saying, "Why Me?", hold back and say, "It'd rather be me, coz someone else might not have been able to take it". Work on the solution rather than drown yourself thinking about the problem.

You crib because you are single? Its teaching you to be one hell of an independent person. Look at opportunities which you can make use of which couples cant!

You crib because your girl/boyfriend left you? Its hardening you to face the delicate bond of relationships, teaching you how to handle them better. Perhaps showing you something new about yourself.

You crib because your girlfriend took you shopping for jeans? Oh well, you at least made friends with the lady selling General Tso chicken.

Till then, just remember, the next time you say "Why Me?" there are many people who are worse off and would rather be in your shoes. Make the best of every obstacle to build yourself into a robust being.